My initial answer was a hearty laugh, which I thought was the best way to answer him. But when he asked me for the second time I knew that it was not because he didn't understand what my laughter meant, he was simply not convinced!
What triggered the question was my friend’s predicament: he’s 31 and he’s single.
His dilemma is not as simple as that. His was not a case of the NGFSB (no girlfriend since birth) syndrome. He was single because of a break up.
But this is not about my friend and I am no psychologist so I will not try to explain and analyze him.
This is about the very much single, me!
Yes, I am happy being single at age 35 but that doesn’t mean that I want to be single for the rest of my life.
No, I am not consciously looking for a romantic relationship but that doesn’t mean that I’m not interested.
In all honesty, there are times when I do wonder what it would be like to be involved romantically.
For the benefit of my friends who might have a violent reaction with my last statement – a less than a week fling does not measure up to my definition of romantic involvement.
Yes, once in a while I allow myself to get drowned in reading mushy love stories and highlight lines like “You’re more important than anyone else. And you’ve given me you” (Bella Swan, Eclipse, chapter 18, page 413) and "I don’t know how to be close to you. I don’t know if I can"(Edward Cullen, Twilight, chapter 13, page 278).
Oftentimes I'd get starry-eyed and teary-eyed watching movies of lovers falling in and out of love. Taking note of lines like: “I guarantee that we will have tough times and that at one point one or both of us would want to get out. And I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life”(Maggie Carpenter, played by Julia Roberts, Runaway Bride).
And yes, I am waiting. And I do dream of the status: in a relationship and engaged.
But when you have so much going on in your life or simply put it you have a life, waiting doesn’t have to be in vain.
Whenever I’m out with my different circle of friends: my college tropa, my loop, my soul sisters/travel buddies and my F4 buddies - no other status exist but: (girls) just wanna have fun!
(college tropa: Jet, Bhake, Lala and Donna)
(my loop: Con-con, Sophie, Kats and Tere)
(soul sisters/ travel buddies: Marie, Charm, Marion, Pia, Annie, Tina and Teri with Dale)
(F4 buddies: Sophie, Gracie and Lo)I get to do things with each group every once in a while. I dine with my loop every other month & with my F4 buddies during birthdays, watch movies & play badminton with my college tropa, sleepover & go out of town with my soul sisters.
Since most of my girl friends are singles like me, and all of us are still in our “teens” (as in “twenteen-four” to “thirteen-seven”) together we assure each other that the right man will come along, at the right time.
Every time my travel buddies would go out of town and another girlfriend would encourage us to meet boys, the idea almost always stir giggles amongst us.
One by one, we would create our own scenario of how a guy will approach us and ask for our names or numbers.
Everybody will have their take of how the scene should be played out. Each one trying to outdo the others' with their own dream sequence and once the magic moment is perfected the hilarity is heightened as we inject more comical scenarios and more wacky lines and we’ll all end up teary-eyed as we laugh our assess off.
On the serious side my soul sisters and also have what we call the singles session where a Christian friend of ours would counsel us about life, love, family and career. Sessions like this makes us see things differently.
Another reason why I never felt panicky at this point is because I have always believed that God is preparing an endearing love story for me. A sweet ending of my single blessedness and a happy, fairytale like beginning of my life with my destiny.
And yes I have once prayed and asked for my “the one” and always praying for the special someone of my fellow single friends.
If in case my “the one” will never come along, I pray that the special someone of my single friends will not come as well so we can all grow old and wrinkly together =)
So, dear single friends, if you don’t wish to grow old with me, you have to pray doubly hard for my “the one” or else…………….
